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|Wednesday, March 25th, 2009|
Letter to our bipolar team
(x-posted from my blog)
Mattias is convinced I should check myself into the hospital. Personally, I feel like it might be a good option, if it weren't for the fact that I might have to accompany Tyler to the hospital today. Things are getting really bad. I don't know what to do.
Hope you got the neuropsychologist report I sent this morning.
I want to reiterate that Tyler is not stable, and she is disrupting our family. She is sad, angry, happy, manic and frustrated throughout the day. When she sees the consequences of her anger and how it effects the family (which is rare) she feels very remorseful and says often that she wishes she was never born or that she was dead so that she wouldn't cause so much pain in the family. She clearly wants to control herself but is unable.
I know Mattias sent you an email regarding our day yesterday. I just want to tell you my side of things.
Tyler started the day, as usual, raging over something I can't remember now. We managed to calm her down long enough to get her to school. On the way there, she was very happy and excited to go to the museum with the class. It was like the morning hadn't happened and she didn't seem to understand why everyone was still upset.
In the car on the way home from looking for kittens, Tyler was raging and crying alternately and hurting her sister. We had to pull over the car 3 times. Finally I got into the back seat to separate the children. She was very upset, and she punched me in the arm when I got in the back of the car to sit between the two children. It was a hard punch and it stung.
When Tyler became calm she started acting very cheery. Everyone else in the car was exhausted and upset. She started throwing a tantrum because she had upset everyone.
We couldn't even get to sleep last night because of Tyler's raging. She was angered beyond belief about Mattias and I and the possibility of us being intimate because we now live together and sleep in the same bed. This is a recurring theme. It happens almost every night that she cries and screams because she wants to sleep in our bed to prevent us from being intimate. Not that we even have the energy to do so anymore. Our relationship is really suffering because of the stress in the household. She screamed and cried and destroyed things in her room for at least an hour before wearing herself out and falling asleep. I believe that Mattias threatened to take her to emergency and that calmed her down.
The day was worse than usual, and included 6-8 tantrums. On an average day. we are seeing frequent raging from Tyler 3-4 times a day. She is cycling between happy go lucky mania to deep anger and depression very quickly.
I am at the end of my rope.
Tayler is talking of suicide because she hates her life and being a part of our family. She is desperate to get away from Tyler's behavior.
I am also feeling desperate. I don't want to be at home at all. I feel awful saying this, but being around Tyler is so exhausting and upsetting.
I feel terrible. I don't know what to do to help her, and I don't know what to do to help Tayler. I don't know what to do to help our family.
Please help us.
|Monday, March 17th, 2008|
I am a married mother of twin daughters both diagnosed with mood disorders.
My daughter Tyler was diagnosed at 6, but only after two years of searching for the right therapist and psychiatrist for her. Tyler showed sign of early onset bipolar disorder at 4. My daughter Tayler has only been recently diagnosed with having a mood disorder that has yet to be defined.
Tayler and Tyler are now approaching their teen years, and I am learning that you never stop adapting, changing, and growing to help your bipolar child.
I've recently started a website and forum for parents of bipolar kids, http://www.moodychild.com
I am looking for members who can give their points of view on bipolar parenting. Please come by.
|Sunday, April 23rd, 2006|
Locking posts - it works
If you want to keep an entry only to be seen by the people in this community, it works to make the post "friend locked". This way, only those people that the owner of the bipolar_kids community has listed as "friends" of the community will see your posts.
|Tuesday, April 18th, 2006|
Hello all! I'm thoroughbredmom, mom to one son who is 9. He is not yet diagnosed as bipolar, but I've read The Bipolar Child cover to cover and I'm guessing that the dx is in his future. He has bipolar and depression on both sides of the family. Currently his dx is mood disorder NOS and anxiety disorder NOS.
Right now we are managing with a mix of supplements...EMPower from truehope.com (specifically for bipolar, via the pdoc), GABA, vit C, folic acid, etc.
It's still a struggle most days though. We just found a great child therapist who is going to advocate for us in the school, and summer is only a month away, so things are looking up :)
Quick question: if I mark a post "friends only" can all the friends (members) of this community see it or only my personal friends?
|Sunday, April 16th, 2006|
It was my weekend with the boys, and R hit his depressive cycle in a big way. Both boys had soccer on Saturday morning, and R threw an absolute fit all through S's game. Fortunately, S's team is made up of a lot of friends of mine who already know R's diagnosis. I hate
using "My kid's bipolar" as an excuse because I think it objectifies him. However, with true friends, who helped me do research when he was diagnosed, it's nice to have the understanding, and someone to help S get his shin guards on while R screams.
The good news is that the exercise and a change of diet have reversed the weight gain from the medicine. My ex-husband is a good dad, but absolutely paranoid that one of our sons will be fat (or gay, but that's probably a rant best saved for my personal LJ). He was gung ho to change meds. But the Trileptal has worked miracles (even Saturday's problems lasted 2 hours where once they would have lasted 2 days) and the weight gain was the ONLY side effect apart from insomnia.
|Tuesday, April 11th, 2006|
I'm the mother of a six-year old boy who has been diagnosed as rapid-cycling bipolar. He's on Trileptal, which helps the swings, but still symptomatic. I am hoping that this community might provide support/tips, etc. for the parents of children diagnosed as bipolar. Current Mood: optimistic